When you love writing (but you are also a mom) and you don't know how and when.

In Italian, we say that life is unfair because those who has teeth doesn't have bread and who has bread doesn't have teeth.

I've been dreaming about writing a book for many years. There had been a time during which I had time to do new things.  I tried to write my book but almost immediately gave up when I realized I didn't know what to write.

Then I became a mamma and many ideas came to my mind but I didn't have any time. I was also exhausted I had to wait until I found a way to devote myself to writing despite my poor resources. 

I'd been collecting ideas, reflections, and thoughts for months, writing them confusingly in several notebooks, and deep inside myself I new that there was a good idea behind it. I am one of those people who get immediately enthusiastic about a new project but if I don't see results in a short period I tend to lose my motivation and my energy and I usually give up.

Not this time. I solemnly promised myself that I'd begun and finished my book.

I didn't know how to start but somehow I managed to do it and I tried to write every afternoon for ten or a maximum of fifteen minutes, while my older son was at the kindergarten and my youngest was taking a nap. I had to sacrifice my naps and this thought usually put me in despair but I soon realized that the most difficult thing was writing the first words and then my tiredness could disappear. 

It took me almost nine months to finish my first novel, that's why I call it my third son! But I felt incredibly proud of myself for having done it, despite all my difficulties.

Long story short, apart from having written and published my book, I realized that I also had created a writing method. 

The main points of this method are:

I always keep a notebook with me, to write ideas, reflections, and thoughts as soon as I get them because my memory is so full that I forget everything easily, to make some space!

I try to write at least some sentences every day.

I adopt a strategy that even Hemingway seemed to use: I usually stop writing at the top of my inspiration, so that the day after I know exactly where I have to start. 

I don't care about constantly looking for inspiration, because it's like fashion, it comes and goes, and you can't guide it. When I don't know what to write, I do something else because new ideas usually come when you are not looking for them.

This is the method I'm using to keep writing. It's not perfect and I'm trying to improve it because, as you can imagine, my sons are growing and they are changing their daily routine frequently and I have to adapt to it.

Do you have any suggestions? Let me know!